Blue Ridge Family Reading Library

Explore recommended books on attachment, mental health, neurodiversity, family relationships, substance use, personality development, and more.

Addiction and Recovery:

The 12 Steps Unplugged: A Young Person's Guide to Alcoholics Anonymous, by Anonymous
Alcoholics Anonymous, by Anonymous
Day by Day: Daily Meditations for Recovering Addicts, by Anonymous
Healing the Addicted Mind, by Lee Jampolsky
Narcotics Anonymous, by Anonymous
The Addictive Personality, by Craig Nakken
Addictive Thinking: Understanding Self-Deception, by Abraham Twerski
Addict in the Family, Hazeldon
Breathing Underwater: Spirituality and the Twelve Steps, by Richard Rohr
Perfect Daughters (Revised Edition): Adult Daughters of Alcoholics, by Robert Ackerman
Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change, by Jeffrey Foote and Carrie Wilkens
Beyond the Influence, and Defeating Alcoholism, by Katherine Ketcham & William F. Ashbury
The Mindfulness Workbook for Addiction: A Guide to Coping with the Grief, Stress and Anger that Trigger Addictive Behaviors, by Rebecca E Williams, PhD, and Julie S Kraft, MA
Mindful Recovery: A Spiritual Path to Healing from Addiction, by Thomas Bien and Beverly Bien
Rational Recovery: The New Cure for Substance Addiction, by Jack Trimpey
SMART Recovery Handbook, by Rosemary Hardin
The Tao of Sobriety: Helping You to Recover from Alcohol and Drug Addiction, by David Gregson and Jay S. Efran
The Truth About Addiction and Recovery, by Stanton Peele & Mary Arnold
Willpower Is Not Enough: Recovering from Addictions of Every Kind, by Arnold Washton, PhD, and Donna Boundy, MSW
Rewired: A Bold New Approach to Addiction and Recovery, by Erica Spiegelman

ADHD:
Driven to Distraction: Recognizing and Coping with Attention Deficit Disorder, by Edward  M Hallowell, MD & John J Ratey, MD
Scattered Minds: A New Look At The Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder by Gabor Mate, MD

Adolescence:
The Parallel Process by Krissy Pozatek
Brave Parenting by Krissy Pozatek 
An Unchanged Mind: The Problem of Immaturity in Adolescence, by John A. McKinnon, MD
The Bully Project: The Unedited Movie Script, by Zachary Wichlei
The Good Teen: Rescuing Adolescence from the Myths of the Storm and Stress Years by Richer M. Lerner, PhD
Identity and the Life Cycle, by Erik H. Erikson
The Perks of Being A Wallflower, by Stephen Chbosky
Teen Love: On Friendship: A Book For Teenagers, by Kimberly Kirberger and Colin Mortensen
To Change a Mind: Parenting to Promote Maturity in Teenagers, by John McKinnon
Yes, Your Teen Is Crazy! Loving Your Kid Without Losing Your Mind, by Michael J. Bradley
The Young Traveler’s Gift: Seven Decisions That Determine Personal Success, by Andy Andrews

Adoption:
Adopted Teens Only: A Survival Guide to Adolescence, by Danea Gorbett
Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self, by David Brodzinsky, Marshall Schochter, & Robin Marantz Henig
Beneath the Mask: Understanding Adopted Teens, by Riley & Meeks
Inside Transracial Adoption: Strength-based, Culture-sensitizing Parenting Strategies for Inter-Country or Domestic Adoptive Families That Don’t “Match”, by Gail Steinberg
Journey of the Adopted Self: A Quest for Wholeness, by Betty Jean Lifton
The Primal Wound: Understanding the Adopted Child, by Nancy Newton Verrier 
Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew, by Sherrie Eldridge
Adopted Teens Only, by Danea Gorbett
Life-Transforming Choices Adoptees Need to Make, by Sherrie Eldridge

Attachment:
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love, by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller
The Attachment Connection: Parenting a Secure and Confident Child Using the Science of Attachment Theory, by Ruth Newton and Allen Schore
Attachments: Why You Love, Feel, and Act the Way You Do, by Tim Clinton
The Neuroscience of Human Relationships: Attachment and the Developing Social Brain by Louis Cozolino

Body, Body Image, and Food Issues:
Disappearing Girl, by Heather Topham Wood
Eat, Drink & Be Mindful: How to End Your Struggle with Mindless Eating and Start Savoring Food with Intention and Joy, by Susan Albers
Food: The Good Girl’s Drug: How to Stop Using Food to Control Your Feelings, by Sunny Sea Gold

Boundaries:
Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No, by Ann Katherine, MA
Boundaries with Teens: When to Say Yes, How to Say No, by John Townsend
Where to Draw the Line: How to Set Healthy Boundaries Every Day, by Anne Katherine

Brain Matters and Interpersonal Neurobiology:
The Brain that Changes Itself: Stories of Personal Triumph from the Frontiers of Brain Science, by Norman Doidge
Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain, by Daniel J. Siegel MD
The Science of Addiction: From Neurobiology to Treatment, by Carlton K. Erickson, PhD
Buddha’s Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom, by Richard Hanson
Mindsight: The New Science of Personal Transformation, by Daniel Siegel
The Teenage Brain: A Neuroscientist’s Survival Guide to Raising Adolescents and Young Adults, by Frances E. Jensen and Amy Ellis Nutt
The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind, by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson

Codependency:
Beyond Codependency: And Getting Better All the Time, by Melody Beattie
Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself, by Melody Beattie
Codependents’ Guide to the Twelve Steps, by Melody Beattie
Co-Dependents Anonymous, by CoDA
Journey to the Heart: Daily Meditations on the Path to Freeing Your Soul, by Melody Beattie
The Language of Letting Go, by Melody Beattie

Common Program Books:
The Alchemist, by Paolo Coehlo
The Anatomy of Peace: Resolving the Heart of Conflict, by the Arbinger Foundation
The Deep Survival: Who Lives, Who Dies, and Why, by Laurence Gonzales
The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom, by Don Miguel Ruiz
Illusions, by Richard Bach
Jonathan Livingston Seagull, by Richard Bach
The Knight in Rusty Armor, by Robert Fisher
Leadership and Self Deception: Getting Out of the Box, by the Arbinger Foundation
The Little Prince, by Antoine De Saint-Exupery
Man’s Search for Meaning, by Victor Frankl
Way of the Peaceful Warrior: A Book That Changes Lives, by Dan Millman

Communication:
The 5 Love Languages of Teenagers: The Secret to Loving Teens Effectively, by Gary D. Chapman
Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High, by Kerry Patterson and Joseph Grenny
Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In, by Roger Fisher and William L. Ury
How to Talk so Teens Will Listen and Listen so Teens Will Talk, by Adele Faber

Consciousness & Spirituality:
Consciousness and the Brain: Deciphering How the Brain Codes Our Thoughts, by Stanslas Dehaene
Conscious Living: How to Create a Life of Your Own Dreams, by Gay Hendricks
Falling Upward: A Spirituality for the Two Halves of Live, by Richard Rohr
Immortal Diamond: The Search for Our True Self, by Richard Rohr
A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose, by Eckhart Tolle
The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment, by Eckhart Tolle The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself, by Michael A. Singer Wellsprings: A Book of Spiritual Exercises, by Anthony de Mello


Courage & Vulnerability:
Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead, by Brene Brown
The Glass Castle, by Jeannette Walls
Healing the Shame that Binds You, by John Bradshaw. Specifically Chapter 1, The Many Faces of Shame
Help Yourself for Teens: Real-Life Advice for Real-Life Challenges, by Dave Pelzer
I Am Malala: The Girl Who Stood Up for Education and Was Shot by the Taliban, by Malala Yousafzai and Christina Lamb
Jacob Have I Loved, by Katherine Paterson
The Places that Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times, by Pema Chodron
The Present: The Gift for Changing Times, by Spencer Johnson, MD
Riding the Dragon: 10 Lessons for Inner Strength in Challenging Times, by Robert J. Wicks
Speak, by Laurie Halse Anderson
Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar, by Cheryl Strayed
Unbroken (the young adult adaptation): An Olympian’s Journey from Airman to Castaway to Captive, by Laura Hillenbrand

Emotions and Moods:
The Bipolar Child: The Definitive and Reassuring Guide to Childhood’s Most Misunderstood Disorder, by Papolas & Papolas
The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships, by Harriet Lerner, PhD
Emotions Anonymous, by Emotions Anonymous International
Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder, by Rachel Reiland
I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, by Terrence Real
I Hate You—Don’t Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality, by Jerold J. Kreisman, MD and Hal Straus
My Anxious Mind: A Teen’s Guide to Managing Anxiety and Panic, by Michael A. Tomkins and Katherine A. Martinez
Perfect, by Ellen Hopkins
SOS Help for Emotions: Managing Anxiety, Anger & Depression, by Lynn Clark

Family Therapy & Keeping Pace with Your Teen in Treatment:
The Family Crucible: The Intense Experience of Family Therapy, by Augustus Y. Napier and Carl Whitaker
The Parallel Process: Growing Alongside Your Adolescent or Young Adult Child in Treatment, by Krissy Pozatek
Not By Chance: How Parents Boost Their Teen’s Success In and After Treatment, by Tim R. Thayne, PhD

Grief & Loss:
For One More Day, by Mitch Albom
Good Grief: 50th Anniversary Edition, by Granger E. Westberg
The Grief Recovery Handbook, the 20th Anniversary Edition, by John W. James and Russell Friedman
The Journey from Abandonment to Healing (Revised and Updated): Surviving Through and Recovering from the Five Stages That Accompany the Loss of Love, by Susan Anderson

Human Development:
Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High, by Kerry Patterson and Joseph Grenny
A General Theory of Love, by Thomas Lewis
Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life: The New Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, by Steven C. Hayes
The Happiness Trap: How to Stop Struggling and Start Living, by Russ Harris
Honoring the Self: The Psychology of Confidence and Respect, by Nathaniel Branden
How to Be an Adult: A Handbook on Psychological and Spiritual Integration, by David Richo
Meeting the Shadow: The Hidden Power of the Dark Side of Human Nature, by Connie Zweig
Owning Your Own Shadow: Understanding the Dark Side of the Psyche, by Robert A. Johnson
Perspective: The Calm Within The Storm, by Robert J. Wicks
The Road Less Traveled: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values, and Spiritual Growth, by M. Scott Peck
The Self-Esteem Workbook: A Simple, Effective Program, by Glenn Schiraldi
Tuesdays with Morrie: An Old Man, a Young Man, and Life’s Greatest Lesson, by Mitch Albom
Your Road Map to Lifelong Happiness: A Guide to the Life You Want, by Ken Keyes Jr

Mindfulness, Meditation & Yoga:
8-Minute Meditation Expanded: Quiet Your Mind. Change Your Life. By y Victor Davich
Breathe: Yoga for Teens, by Mary Kaye Chryssicas
Full Catastrophe Living (revised): Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness, by Jon Kabat-Zinn
Focusing, by Eugene T. Gendlin, PhD
Get Some Headspace: How Mindfulness Can Change Your Life in Ten Minutes a Day, by Andy Puddicombe
Integral Mindfulness: Clueless to Dialed-In-How Integral Mindful Living Makes Everything Better, by Keith Witt
Meditation for Beginners, by Jack Kornfield
Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With The Heart of a Buddha, by Tara Brach, PhD
Your Body Knows the Answer: Using Your Felt Sense to Solve Problems, Effect Change, and Liberate Creativity, by David I. Rome

Parenting:
The 5 Love Languages of Teenagers: The Secret to Loving Teens Effectively, by Gary D. Chapman
Beyond Consequences, Logic and Control: A Love-Based Approach to Helping Attachment-Challenged Children with Severe Behaviors, by Heather T. Forbes and B. Bryan Post
The Biggest Job We’ll Ever Have: The Hyde School Program for Character-Based Education and Parenting, by Laura & Malcolm Gauld
The Blessings of a Skinned Knee: Using Jewish Teachings to Raise Self-Reliant Children, by Wendy Mogel, PhD
The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children, by Ross W. Greene, PhD
For Parents and Teenagers: Dissolving the Barrier Between You and Your Teen, by William Glasser, MD
Freeing Your Child from Anxiety: Practical Strategies to Overcome Fears, Worries, and Phobias and Be Prepared for Life—From Toddlers to Teens, by Tamar Chansky, PhD
Giving the Love that Heals: A Guide for Parents, by Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD
How to Talk so Teens Will Listen and Listen so Teens Will Talk, by Adele Faber
Love You Forever, by Robert Munsch and Sheila McGraw
My Brother’s Keeper: Learning to Love Your Siblings God’s Way, by Patricia McCormick Nurture Shock: New Thinking About Children, by Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman Overindulged Children: A Parent’s Guide to Mentoring, by James A. Fogarty
Parenting from the Inside Out: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive, by Daniel Siegel and Mary Hartzell
Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility, by Foster Cline and Jim Fay
The Parent's Tao Te Ching: Ancient Advice for Modern Parents. by William Martin.
The Price of Privilege: How Parental Pressure and Material Advantage Are Creating a Generation of Disconnected and Unhappy Kids, by Madeline Levine, PhD
Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World: How One Family Learned that Saying No Can Lead to Life’s Biggest Yes, by Kristen Welch
Stop Negotiating With Your Teen: Strategies for Parenting Your Angry, Manipulative, Moody or Depressed Adolescent, by Janet Sasson Edgette.
Unhappy Teenagers: A Way for Parents and Teachers to Reach Them, by William Glasser, MD
When Your Kids Push Your Buttons: And What You Can Do About It, by Bonnie Harriss

Personality Types:
The Enneagram in Love and Work: Understanding Your Intimate and Business Relationships, by Helen Palmer
The Essential Enneagram: The Definitive Personality Test and Self-Discovery Guide, by David Daniels and Virginia Price
Please Understand Me: Character and Temperament Types, by David Keirsey and Marilyn Bates
The Wisdom of the Enneagram: The Complete Guide to Psychological and Spiritual Growth for the Nine Personality Types, by Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson

Perspective:
First You Have to Row a Little Boat: Reflections on Life & Living, by Richard Bode
The Five People You Meet in Heaven, by Mitch Albom
The Giver, by Lois Lowry
The Good Girl’s Guide to Getting Lost: A Memoir of Three Continents, Two Friends, and One Unexpected Adventure, by Rachel Friedman
The Great Divorce, by C.S. Lewis
The Inner Game of Tennis: The Classic Guide to the Mental Side of Peak Performance, by W. Timothy Gallwey
The Journey of Socrates, by Dan Millman
The Life of Pi, by Yann Martel
Pay It Forward: A Novel, by Catherine Ryan Hyde
Perspective: The Calm Within the Storm, by Robert J. Wicks
Third Culture Kids: Growing Up Among Worlds, by David C. Pollock and Ruth E. Van Reken
Way of the Peaceful Warrior: A Book That Changes Lives, by Dan Millman
Wonder, by RJ Palacio

Regarding Boys & Men:
Boyhood and Beyond, by Bob Schultz
Boy Meets Depression: Or Life Sucks and Then You Live, by Kevin Breel
Boys Adrift: The Five Factors Driving the Growing Epidemic of Unmotivated Boys and Underachieving Young Men, by Leonard Sax
Boys Should Be Boys: 7 Secrets to Raising Healthy Sons, by Meg Meeker
He: Understanding Masculine Psychology, by Robert A. Johnson
Iron John: A Book About Men, by Robert Bly
King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature Masculine, by Robert Moore and Doug Gillette
Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Lives of Boys, by Michael Thompson, PhD and Dan Kindlon, PhD

Regarding Girls & Women:
American Girls: Social Media and the Secret Lives of Teenagers, by Nancy Jo Sales
The Beauty Myth: How Images of Beauty Are Used Against Women, by Naomi Wolf
Dirty Little Secrets: Breaking the Silence on Teenage Girls and Promiscuity, by Kerry Cohen
Girls on the Edge: The Four Factors Driving the New Crisis for Girls: Sexual Identity, the Cyberbubble, Obsessions, Environmental Toxins, by Leonard Sax
I Am an Emotional Creature: The Secret Life of Girls Around the World, by Eve Ensler
Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and the New Realities of Girl World, by Rosalind Wiseman
Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls, by Mary Pipher
She: Understanding Feminine Psychology, by Robert A. Johnson
Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions Into Adulthood, by Lisa Damour, PhD

Relationships:
The Fisher King and the Handless Maiden, by Robert A. Johnson
Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness, by Dr. Fred Luskin
Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In, by Roger Fisher and William L. Ury
He: Understanding Masculine Psychology, by Robert A. Johnson How to Win Friends and Influence People, by Dale Carnegie The Language of Love, by Gary Smalley & John Trent, PhD
She: Understanding Feminine Psychology, by Robert A. Johnson
The Sunflower: On the Possibilities and Limits of Forgiveness, by Simon Wiesenthal
We: Understanding the Psychology of Romantic Love, by Robert A. Johnson

Self-Harm & Suicidality:
Hello Cruel World: 101 Alternatives to Suicide for Teens, Freaks, and Other Outlaws, by Kate Bornstein
Impulse, by Ellen Hopkins
A Bright Red Scream: Self-Mutilation and the Language of Pain, by Marilee Strong

Self-Discovery & Creativity:
Poetry and Story Therapy: The Healing Power of Creative Expression, by Geri Giebel Chavis
Steal Like an Artist: 10 Things Nobody Told You About Being Creative, by Austin Kleon
Good Poems, Edited by Garrison Keillor
Good Poems for Hard Times, Edited by Garrison Keillor

Sexual & Physical Abuse:
In Love and In Danger: A Teen’s Guide to Breaking Free of Abusive Relationships, by Barrie Levy
Invisible Girls: The Truth About Sexual Abuse: A Book for Teen Girls, Young Women, and Everyone Who Cares About Them, by Patti Feuereisen and Caroline PIncus
The Me Nobody Knows: A Guide for Teen Survivors, by Barbara Bean and Shari Bennett
The Princess Who Believed in Fairy Tales: A Story for Modern Times, by Marcia Grad

Sexuality & Gender Issues:
100 Questions You’d Never Ask Your Parents: Straight Answers to Teens’ Questions About Sex, Sexuality, and Health, by Elisabeth Henderson and Nancy Armstrong, MD
The Gender Quest Workbook: A Guide for Teens and Young Adults Exploring Gender Identity, by Rylan Jay Testa and Deborah Coolhart
GLBTQ: The Survival Guide for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender, and Questioning Teens, by Kelly Heugel
Being a Teen: Everything Teen Girls & Boys Should Know About Relationships, Sex, Love, Health, Identity & More, by Jane Fonda
The Bare Facts: 39 Questions Your Parents Hope You Never Ask About Sex, by Josh McDowell and Erin Davis

Spectrum Disorders:
Asperger Syndrome and Adolescence: Helping Preteens & Teens Get Ready for the Real World, by Teresa Bolik
Aspergirls, by Rudy Simone
The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night, by Mark Hadden
Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close, by Jonathan Safran Foer
The Journal of Best Practices: A Memoir of Marriage, Asperger Syndrome, and One Man’s Quest to Be a Better Husband, by David Finch
Raising NLD Superstars, by Marcia Rubinstein
The Way I See It: A Personal Look at Autism & Asperger’s (32 New Subjects Revised & Updated), by Dr. Temple Grandin

Trauma, Recovery, and Resiliency:
Beginning to Heal, Elaine Bass & Laura Davis
Blackbird: A Childhood Lost & Found, by Jennifer Lauck 
The Body Keeps the Score, by Bessel Ven Der Kolk, MD Bounce: 
Living the Resilient Life, by Robert J. Wicks
The Courage to Heal Workbook, by Laura Davis & Ellen Bass
The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self, by Alice Miller
The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are, by Brene Brown
In An Unspoken Voice: How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness, by Dr. Peter Levine
Peaks and Valleys: Making Good and Bad Times Work for You—At Work and In Life, by Spencer Johnson
Revolutionary Trauma Release Process: Transcend Your Toughest Times, by David Berceli, PhD
Shake it Off Naturally: Reduce Stress, Anxiety, and Tension with TRE, by David Berceli, PhD
Soft-Wired: How the New Science of Brain Plasticity Can Change Your Life, by Dr. Michael Merzenich
Still Waters, by Jennifer Lauck
Who Moved My Cheese? An Amazing Way to Deal with Change in Your Work and In Your Life, by Spencer Johnson

Wilderness:
A Walk in the Woods: Rediscovering America on the Appalachian Trail, by Bill Bryson
Awake in the Wild: Mindfulness in Nature as a Path of Self-Discovery, by Mark Coleman and Jack Kornfield
Backpacking with the Saints: Wilderness Hiking as Spiritual Practice, by Belden C. Lane
Into the Wild, by Jon Krakauer
The Last Child in the Woods: Saving Our Children from Nature Deficit Disorder, by Richard Luov
Mindfulness & The Natural World: Bringing Our Awareness Back to Nature, by Claire Thompson
Shouting at the Sky: Troubled Teens and the Promise of the Wild, by Gary Ferguson
Stories from the Field, a History of Wilderness Therapy, by Will White
Wild, by Cheryl Strayed
Wilderness Wisdom, by John Gookin and the National